“Never confuse movement with action.”
We men in the western world have a crisis on hand. It’s a serious one. And it’s rampant.
The cause of the disease is still unknown at this time but it’s being thoroughly researched and investigated. “It’s a crippling sickness,” authorities tell us, “that is waging detrimental effects on a once prosperous and strong society.” At this time, only males are at risk. The men who are prone to attract this modern-era disease might have one or all of the following traits, so please be on the lookout:
*Lack of callouses on hands
*Lack of decent manners
* Avoids lifting barbells off the ground
*Watches television/video games in their free time
*Drowning in debt
*Out of shape physically and mentally
*Hasn’t read a book in over a year
*Complains about their employment/circumstance with no action
*Talks down to people
*Never questions authority
*Has never been punched in the face
*Has more passion in rearranging his Fantasy FB team than rearranging his life
*Has a Man Cave (because he’s not allowed out of the house)
Doctors tell us that this disease enters through the eyes and ears, then pushes down into the circulatory system, diluting the blood, weakening the bones while attacking all of the major organs–specifically the gonads.
The new disease is called Bitchitus, and if left untreated, could result in emasculation. But the good news is there are preventative measures you can take to avoid this soul-sucking disease.
What happened to men in the 21st Century?
Tyler Durden probably explained it best in the movie Fight Club when he said, “We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.”
Men have been stripped of the philosophy, the guts, the productivity, the mental toughness, and the physical stamina that has embodied male homo sapiens since the dawn of civilization.
We are a dying breed devolving into over-aged boys who are under-employed and out-of-shape, who spend their free time drunk on Netflix while trolling online keyboard battling the world, equipped with illogical opinions, devoid of any life experience. And we’re confident in our ignorance.
Women, on the other hand, are on the come up. They’re outdoing men in the workplace. They’re more likely to graduate college than men. They’re more likely to pay off their debts than men. And they’re becoming physically stronger as men are becoming weaker.
Recent studies show that 35% of so-called men from ages 18-34 still live with their parents. 30% can’t find a job in the prime years of their life. 2 out of 3 young males don’t know how to change the oil in their own car. And worst of all, most have never endured a quality punch to the face or had to stand up for something that required a little sacrifice.
For instance, meet Jacob.
Jacob is 24 years old, has a college degree and lives in his parent’s basement. He doesn’t have a job, which means he doesn’t have a girl. His days are comprised of 10 hours of video games intertwined with bouts of porn watching. He was taught in the halls of academia that he’s entitled to live off of other people, so he has no problem collecting unemployment to feed his unproductive lifestyle. He thinks he’s too “educated” to work a labor job. His hands are soft. His arms are weak. And his life is essentially lived online where he can disguise his menial existence as something glamorous. But it’s not.
Better yet, meet Robert.
Robbie did everything right. Got a degree, got a job, got a wife, got a family, got everything he was told that would make him a good American.
But something is missing. Robbie has lost the fire. He’s worn to hell from chronic boredom and society’s tedious rules. He’s shackled to the anchor of domestication and the demands of an overbearing wife. His days are predictable, his routine monotonous. He becomes numb to the world around him. And he finally gives in to his pathetic existence.
The backpacking trip in Africa never happened. The book he was going to write never happened. They likely never will. The fire that once raged in his gut has been snuffed out. He’s a dead soul walking around lost in the wasteland of his former self. And he blames his despair on the world.
These are today’s men and they are broken to the core.
Several decades ago, the boisterous writer Norman Mailer observed that “because there is very little honor left in American life, there is a certain built-in tendency to destroy masculinity in American men.”
He was right on the money.
Men of Yesterday and Today
The men who inhabited our father’s generation were a hell of a lot manlier than we are today. They were born and raised by WW2 heroes and coal miners. They had bigger balls, broader shoulders and glorious scars that inspired life-changing lessons. They didn’t complain about being around second-hand smoke. They didn’t call 911 when they had a minor dilemma. They weren’t vain and pompous. They didn’t clamor for politicians to financially deal with their lack of income. They were men of action who wore it on their faces.
They were men who never had the luxury of comfort and ease we have today. They understood that security was an illusion. And their lives were hard and most of their time was devoted to supporting their family and being a man. Times have changed and so have we.
Men today are weak. We cower in the shadows of the men of yesterday. Our testosterone levels are down. Our grip strength is weaker. We lack basic self-reliant skills. We’ve been castrated by the PC hoopla. We’re riddled with anxiety. We lack the basic lessons of history because we don’t know history. We take pills to help us focus. To help us sleep. To help us live. We lack protein and healthy fats in our diets. We’ve let the chains of domestication keep us from embracing our wild heart.
The Marlboro Man, that once mighty figure of manliness, has been banned and replaced with a skinny-jean wearing metrosexual selling us essential oils. It’s a mad world we live in.
Television sitcoms paint us men as idiotic, beer drinking couch potatoes, who quiver in the presence of intelligent, demanding wives. The overzealous feminists (sexually frustrated, academia conditioned women writing from tiny cubicles far away from the streets of life) portray masculinity in men as something dangerous or evil.
And somewhere along the way you’ve accepted this shallow role of the modern man and you bask in its empty glory. You’ve been told it’s ok. Everything is fine.
But it’s not.
You are killing the essence and virtues that have defined manliness for the last 5000 years. And you know this. You know this because deep down you’re not happy. You’re not doing you. You’re just doing what everyone else does. You’re doing what is expected. You’re not living on your own terms.
You’re a product of today’s jacked-up culture that buys too much shit, talks too much shit but doesn’t do shit. Small talk drips from your mouth because you’re too scared of offending people with real talk. You’re afraid to go off on your own, like the men of yesterday, and explore and discover the world you live in.
Instead, you get off on all these silly little meaningless things society keeps you busy with like Fantasy Football or politics or Pokemon, while complaining that you “don’t have time” to improve. To be the man you were meant to be. To die doing what you love.
You’re not living. You just exist, probably over-medicated in a state of pure nothingness, kowtowing the social constructs around you. You’re a soft man devoid of any real value. And it’s killing you inside.
This might sound harsh but it’s the truth. And the truth doesn’t waver according to whether you find it offensive or not. Men have lost that “fire in the gut” that used to rage and drive men to build empires. Today, men lack the honor, decency and hard work to build a real legacy.
But we can change direction right now. Here are 6 things you can start doing today that will rekindle that flame in the gut and get you on the right track to reclaiming your manliness, and the passion that comes with it.
1. Give up you sense of entitlement. The world doesn’t owe you anything. It doesn’t even care that you’re here. You’re not owed happiness, good health, wealth, education, freedom, friends, love or anything else. These things are not automatically given to you. If you want them you have to pursue them like you would a lake if your hair was on fire. You have to go after it with a club while expecting to get hit with the full force of a Mike Tyson punch to the face. If you’re not willing to bleed for what you want, you likely don’t deserve it. You are who you are today because of the choices you made on a day to day basis. You can blame the world, your circumstances, politics, your job, your upbringing or whatever, but it comes down to your choices. Every morning you wake up is an opportunity to seize the day. You can complain about the way things are, or you can be a man and go battle the dragons in the way of what you want to become.
2. Get Strong. Mentally and physically. As the legendary strength coach, Mark Rippetoe, once said, “Strong people are harder to kill than weak people and more useful in general.” Men are made to be strong. We’re built to move. Our distant ancestors carried heavy things for long distances, they sprinted from murderous beasts and lifted heavy things off the ground. Times have changed, I know. In today’s world, we don’t have to do these things anymore. But we should. Sprint, squat and carry heavy things. If you have a garage or a small room and a barbell with some weights, you have all you need to be a healthy, strong man. Forget all the fitness hype, the endless fads, and futile exercise equipment, and just lift a barbell off the ground. Add weight every week. Set goals so you have something to conquer. A strong body breeds a strong mind. Start with the 531 program by Jim Wendler.
3. Get out of debt. There’s nothing that kills the spirit of a man more than debt does. If you’re part of the average man, you probably have 3 or more credit cards. You have a massive car payment, a house you can’t afford, and less than $1,000 of savings in the bank. If an emergency arises, you’re screwed. You buy “stuff” to fill the void. You think you’ll be happy if you can just get that new truck, or that awesome pool for the backyard, or that expensive watch. But you won’t. You’re just shortening the chains. The men of yesterday didn’t have debt. They worked hard and paid cash for what they needed. So should we. Sell your crap, pay off your debts, and spend money on experiences rather than stuff.
4. Quit being a pompous asshole. Quit being rude. As the blue-collar philosopher, Eric Hoffer, once said, “rudeness is the weak person’s imitation of strength.” Be on time, treat people with respect, build others up, open doors for people, and realize, in the end, we all know nothing. So stop acting otherwise.
5. Read, Read, Read. Men don’t read anymore. We don’t feed our curiosity like we used to. We’re content in letting others shape our worldview. We let the media form our opinions. We let politicians tell us what’s good for us. We let preachers tell us our fate. It’s time to give these outlets a stiff arm. We have to recapture our minds, do our own thinking, and decide what’s true to us. It’s time to throw out the TV and open a book. We’re letting the words of Hemingway sit unread on some forgotten bookshelf, collecting dust when they should be bouncing around in our soul. Read quality books, books that shake to life your third eye, books that challenge your concrete beliefs, books that, in the words of Kafka, are like an “axe for the frozen sea inside us.”
6. Go explore, alone. As a man, it’s healthy to test yourself at times. It’s good to linger alone outside the safe walls of security, to be a little uncomfortable, to overcome obstacles on your own accord. The best way to do this is to get out in the world with only the essentials on your back and taste it for yourself. Travel often, travel light, travel to places you fear. As men, we need to feel a sense of danger at times to keep the soul flooded with vitality. As the great explorer, Amyr Klink once wrote, “A man needs to travel. By his own means, not by stories, images, books or TV. By his own, with his eyes and feet, to understand what he is. To some day plant his own trees and give them some value. To know the cold, to enjoy the heat. To feel the distance and lack of shelter to be well under his own ceiling. A man needs to travel to places he doesn’t know to break this arrogance that makes us see the world as we imagine it, and not simply as it is or may be.” Make it a priority to travel alone at least once a year. You can do so very inexpensively. And you’ll find out who are and what you’re made of.
The time is now. The seconds of your life are slowly ticking away. What legacy are you going to leave? What creative works are you going to leave behind? What is the purpose of your existence? What value are you bringing to the brief life you are blessed with?
In the words of the always adventurous, Teddy Roosevelt, “We do not admire the man of timid peace. We admire the man who embodies victorious effort; the man who never wrongs his neighbor, who is prompt to help a friend, but who has those virile qualities necessary to win in the stern strife of actual life.”
Win back your lost manhood, rekindle that flame and get out there and live the life you’ve always imagined.